This was profoundly timely, Sara. Thank you. Something that dawned on me as I was reading this is that it is actually unfair of me to place so much power to sway my life on other people. Even those who are well-meaning should not shoulder the burden of having that much power over my life. I certainly wouldn’t want that much power myself. I wonder if not trusting myself, rather than being an act of humility, is in fact harming me AND the people around me. Epiphany moments. All that to say, thank you for sending this exactly on time (for me).
If only the likes of Musk could take a fraction of his misplaced self confidence and bottle it, he might make enough money to cover his spectacular Twitter losses 😂 Brilliant article as ever Sara, it really made me think.
What a beautiful message Sara. I fret sometimes about the gravitas offered to idiots and blowhards .I also worry that somehow there is a car wreck type of fascination with these empty vessels of humans. Maybe we are just aware of it more now and its always been there. Holding tight to our own personal meaningful kindred spirits seems so essential -particularly for us creatives. The bully in the schoolyard always was given too much power.
Wow Sara, this is such a sincere and thought-provoking piece. Twitter is oozing with toxicity right now, I'm so glad this wonderful corner of the internet exists to counteract it. Thank you x
This is so spot on! And I have been thinking so much about Elon and Trump - where do they get that self-confidence to move forward and not get in their heads. Perhaps a pigheaded confidence, a mind palace of self-righteous. And I think why can’t I have 0.001% of that? It would be enough. So yes, trust your own voice, make it a mantra and start believing. Thanks for this Sara! 🤍
This was wonderful and really perfect for me to read on this actual day! I’ve had to back off from even asking my closest family - who’s always supported me in a vague sense - for feedback after realizing what I’m doing isn’t for them. Either they’re the wrong audience for what I’m creating or something else, it’s become clear if I need input or validation, it’s gotta be from the “right” source that I trust for that purpose. Otherwise, I do *me* ✌🏼
I've really been struggling lately with seeking outside approval, and second guessing whether people - particularly colleagues and peers - like me, or think I'm doing a good job. I tend to seek out proof that they don't - what's that called -evidence bias? Where you already believe something, and therefore only see 'evidence' that back up that belief. Anyway, thank you for this, I can actually pinpoint the moment where I started to doubt my self belief - and it did actually involve some caterwauling! Trying to shake it all off, and ask myself... do I like me? Am I happy with the work I have done? Do I meet my own standards (and are those standards, possibly, a little too high?).
Love this so much Sara. Thank you for posting. x
This was profoundly timely, Sara. Thank you. Something that dawned on me as I was reading this is that it is actually unfair of me to place so much power to sway my life on other people. Even those who are well-meaning should not shoulder the burden of having that much power over my life. I certainly wouldn’t want that much power myself. I wonder if not trusting myself, rather than being an act of humility, is in fact harming me AND the people around me. Epiphany moments. All that to say, thank you for sending this exactly on time (for me).
If only the likes of Musk could take a fraction of his misplaced self confidence and bottle it, he might make enough money to cover his spectacular Twitter losses 😂 Brilliant article as ever Sara, it really made me think.
Thank you for this. Deeply needed in my current season of life.
Beautifully articulated and very thought provoking... thank you for questioning why and how we seek validation 🙌🏻
What a beautiful message Sara. I fret sometimes about the gravitas offered to idiots and blowhards .I also worry that somehow there is a car wreck type of fascination with these empty vessels of humans. Maybe we are just aware of it more now and its always been there. Holding tight to our own personal meaningful kindred spirits seems so essential -particularly for us creatives. The bully in the schoolyard always was given too much power.
Wow Sara, this is such a sincere and thought-provoking piece. Twitter is oozing with toxicity right now, I'm so glad this wonderful corner of the internet exists to counteract it. Thank you x
This is so spot on! And I have been thinking so much about Elon and Trump - where do they get that self-confidence to move forward and not get in their heads. Perhaps a pigheaded confidence, a mind palace of self-righteous. And I think why can’t I have 0.001% of that? It would be enough. So yes, trust your own voice, make it a mantra and start believing. Thanks for this Sara! 🤍
This was wonderful and really perfect for me to read on this actual day! I’ve had to back off from even asking my closest family - who’s always supported me in a vague sense - for feedback after realizing what I’m doing isn’t for them. Either they’re the wrong audience for what I’m creating or something else, it’s become clear if I need input or validation, it’s gotta be from the “right” source that I trust for that purpose. Otherwise, I do *me* ✌🏼
Thank you. Needed this. Xxx
Love this Sara! I literally only got twitter on my iphone so I could tweet and chat in the instachat last year 😆 📱
I can’t go on it at all now it’s just so ugly over there it upsets my nervous system.
Last time I was there I read some really sad threads from ex staff members who I hope are all doing brilliant things elsewhere online now. ✨
PS - the photo of your daughter though?!! 💜💜💜 just stunning!
I'm not sure but I think given the subject you get a pass from Godwin's Law! X
This is a perceptive post, EM was the inspo behind one of the characters in my novel, Earthly Bodies 😅😅
So good 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 thank you!
I've really been struggling lately with seeking outside approval, and second guessing whether people - particularly colleagues and peers - like me, or think I'm doing a good job. I tend to seek out proof that they don't - what's that called -evidence bias? Where you already believe something, and therefore only see 'evidence' that back up that belief. Anyway, thank you for this, I can actually pinpoint the moment where I started to doubt my self belief - and it did actually involve some caterwauling! Trying to shake it all off, and ask myself... do I like me? Am I happy with the work I have done? Do I meet my own standards (and are those standards, possibly, a little too high?).